WHO IS THE VICTIM IN ALL THIS ANYWAY ?

If you read my previous post you know by now that I am not the victim, not anymore at least. So who is ?
Based on some recent posts by my sweet wife I am afraid she may be the victim in all this....she obviously has some guilt about me moving a little slower than she would like and other such things. She posted "Confessions of a wife whose husband has PD " or something like that on her blog "Life with Shaky" - go read it, I should probably read it again, take notes and then respond. But I'm too lazy and this way if I remember wrong I have an out so to speak :-)

Anyway, WIFE, I say to you:
* Sorry for the times when I frustrate you and if I move too slow at times. It's OK. I get frustrated too, as long as you know I am doing all I can, It's all good !
* You won't crack under pressure, you are strong, you are my rock and I trust you .
* Don't worry about money. Do all you can , plan for the worst, hope for the best and know that everything is in God's plan for us.
* PD IS NO BIG DEAL TO ANYONE EXCEPT PWP AND THEIR FAMILIES. If someone doesn't seem to think it's a big deal it is likely due to ignorance. Unlike PD, ignorance can be cured, STUPID is forever. Don't sweat the small stuff honey. Concentrate being happy today.
* Anyone who thinks having a child ( if you want to have one ) at any age, with any illness is STUPID, not ignorant. See above about no known cure for STUPID.
Our children , all three of them are gifts and cannot be mistakes by anyone of normal mental capacity.
* Why would you want to skip out on me, we just got started good :-)
* I know you sometimes must feel sorry for yourself, we all do some day or another. Please refer to my post on choosing to live while I can. Don't waste your time on sorry, lets figure out how to live like tomorrow may not come...
* Don't let our kids feel sorry either , let's teach them to LIVE
* We ARE perfectly happy- not " except for PD " BUT IN SPITE OF PD !!!
* No hard feelings on the surgery my honey, look where it got us ! A good trade in my book !
* If something happened to you, I would get help taking care of the kids, don't worry, LIVE. You can't change yesterday, tomorrow isn't promised so quit worrying.
* You want more kids ? Remember how we do that ? ( Couldn't help myself sorry , gotta have a little fun with you ! )

To give action to something I recently learned , if you don't know, let me tell you:
I love you to pieces, you make me very happy, you are a wonderful mother and I know when the time comes you will take good care to me. You are the best. You are the love to me life.

I know it's not easy to be married to a PWP and mostly I feel worse for you than me , but let's not be defeated. I refuse to wave the white flag. Now..............lets GET TO IT ! LIVING that is....